Many of you know that I married a disabled Vet, Kevin, and/or that my daughter, Emma, is trying to go through the steps to make the Junior Dream Team and later, the US Olympic Archery team. This week, there have been a ton of discussions in our house after the tragic events in Texas and later in California…both committed by Veterans. I felt like I should post something and decided it would be a movie I had to do for school. I chose to do the short film about the relationship between Kevin and Emma.
I think that there is too much negativity in the media about Vets and not enough positive stories. I know I can’t change that all by myself but I am setting the intention with the hopes that some people decide to follow my lead. Too many Veterans and their families are suffering not knowing they can get help at the VA and how to get it. Too many people are denying jobs to Veterans because they are afraid of the stereotype. Too many caregivers are not getting the assistance they need mainly because there is not a great deal of publicity around programs that can help them right now.
This has to stop.
Its hard. Each and every day along with taking care of myself, my kiddo and my animals, I have to now have the daily responsibility for a Veteran that would rather be able to do things for himself. It’s frustrating for him and its frustrating for me. But I remind him. I remind him to get his hearing aids and to drink water. I remind him he needs to shower before he puts his leg brace on. I remind him of all the tasks he has while I am struggling to remember my own. When he gets cranky because I have told him twice to do something, I endure. If I don’t tell him, regardless of his reactions, he will suffer far worse than I.
In between, something amazing has happened.
Even when he has to take a pill to make the headaches subside just a little each morning, he still gets out of bed. Even though his shoulders and elbows ache, he still packs up his bow in the car with Emma’s. Even though he could sleep 20 hours a day, he endures so Emma can excel.
And boy, do we laugh!
I hope you watch this and it changes your impression of Veterans just a bit. I hope it reminds you the next time you hear someone, read an article, watch a news report and you see an over generalized negative impression of Veterans, I hope it causes you to take action.
We need you.